Bulls**t From Bulls**t Friends Equal A Life Filled With *Bulls**t (hereafter known as "BS").

Among my friends and close ones, I doubt you would find any that would describe me as a man of patience. I do not know what is delayed gratification and would quickly lose interest in things when they don't give me the "instant" results I want. If I could pay my way to get it, I most probably would. Also, the technology that I wish that would be invented now would probably be teleportation. Perhaps thats why nowadays I don't take the train to work anymore. This is also why I could start so many things simultaneously, get bored and not finish what I started.

Same thing goes for my friends (or ex-friends). I have little patience for BS and once they maxed out on my BS tolerance, they become ex-friends. Among my FB friends that I asked around, I am sure I have the most blocked people in my FB account (last I count is 58). That said, I still keep to a 3 strikes rule. BS me three times and they are out. Permanently!!! Thankfully however, my definition of BS is rather narrow and simple. Don't drain my already low emotional capital or add unnecessary stresses into my already very stressed-out life.

However, to make up for my low tolerance for BS, I am a rather generous friend. I would consciously give more than I take, not take without giving first and make sure I do not give with the expectation of the other party giving me something back. BUT!!! I am extraordinarily (and extremely) pissed off when the person take what I have given for granted boldly, treat what I have given as something they are entitled to (and not as a appreciated privilege) OR give total BS in return. This type of "friend" fortunately still enjoy my 3 strikes rule and I make sure they know when they get to strike 1, 2, 3 and when they are OUT! Also fortunately, there are people in my life that get a lifetime "get out of jail" card from me. They are the people who I do not apply the 3 strikes rule to. Primarily they are my immediate family, my business partner, my "future" spouse and also friends that make extreme effort to NOT even get a strike 1 (if they do, I still let it slide as I could see their extreme effort).

Let me stop here and apologise here for my fuming ranting. It has been on my mind these few days and I feel I have to let it out before I self-destruct. What happened was that I have just "blocked" someone out of my life (and FB) again and I was struggling over what to do after that person hit strike 3. I knew deep down if I just let it go again this time, I would suffer again as I am sure this person would keep striking out intentionally and drain the life out of me. I also know that it would not be good for this person if I allowed her to keep striking out with me as I think that would be like telling her it its okay to abuse this friendship. In the end, we will both just end up worse off and have a friendship that is not mutually uplifting but just degenerating/draining each other.

I also concluded that our "friendship" only amount to that "much". And that it ain't worth much to either of us to keep it going or protect it from breaking down. The Chinese people believe that we become who we mix with rather than the western belief of "birds of a feather (originally and already alike) flock together". Thus. I am sure that I have no power nor will to influence her and definitely do not want her to influence me or let her screw up my mind and cause me sleepless nights. Sad as it may sound, I actually find it extremely beneficial to spring clean my FB's friends list and disassociate myself with people that keep on attempting to drag me through sh*t. In the end, I concluded that my list should only consist of people that either I could contribute meaningfully into their life or that they could contribute minimally to mine. At the very least, we should not be trampling all over each other's lives.

Life is hard (and short). If the company we keep is not edifying, it serves no meaningful purpose and at the end of such "fellowships", we walk away none the better or became worse off than before. I now begin to understand what the Bible said (though not fully yet) about being unequally yoked. Do not misunderstand that I cut off these people with bitterness or hate. I could and I did forgave them for the BS they thrown into my life. I would also forget what they have done AND on top of it all, forget them totally. As if that they were never in my life.

Maybe you may say that I am a man of extreme. But I believe extreme times require extreme actions or it would be extremely impossible to live a life of extreme fruitfulness. Do not think my way should be yours or your way should be mine. Just think for yourself and ask these questions. Why am I remaining in a abusive relationship that just spiral into a pit with no bottom? Is there a sliver of possibility to stop the spiral and push each other up instead? Would the other party be willing to work with me on this possibility no matter how small? Further down the road, can I confidently say that I am glad to know him/her as a friend? And last but never the least, am I a friend that lift my friends up or pull them down to the pits of sh*t with me?

Answer these questions truthfully, also make sure you do seek guidance from God and people of wisdom that God put into your life. Thereafter, I am very sure you would be on a path of building meaningful friendships that would move you to fulfil your full potential.

P.S: Please do not re-share this post or engage me in a debate hereafter. It is after all my post which I have already limited it to selected friends (already excluded the oversensitive ones who may think I am talking about them). If you do not agree with me, let's just agree to disagree. With this I also end with a sincere wish that you have friendships that mutually cheer on each other in an already difficult life. Cheerios & God Bless~!