Just make sure it must agree with mine. Ironical and idiotic isn’t it? Such is the state of society now, where everyone and anyone learns/practices assertive communication for everyday situations. You push me? I will push back harder. Grace is so lame now. It is only for the weak, perceived by the strong as foolishness. Take for an example of the recent Palestinian elections. When they made their choice, the world frowns on it, though they advocate democracy. More like hypocrisy to me. It’s like emotional blackmail. I kid you not that it’s everywhere. My past experience with a certain dame still makes me shudder by the thoughts of it. She says it’s alright if I don’t do what she wants me to do. Just don’t expect a cuddle for the rest of my life until I do whatever she wants me to do. Well…sigh…damn if I don’t, damn if I do right?
Even children are so skilled in their assertive skills! I’m not surprise though coz they are the ones that we adults learned this skill from. Or was it the other way round? These bring to my main point. Non-acceptance or being plain disrespectful of other people’s choices just proclaims a character flaw…downright immature. I seen people advocating an individual’s right to self-determination, or hear of countries proudly saying that they have a strong policy of non-interference in other countries’ businesses. Then suddenly the individual find himself thinking he can't feel secure at his own backyard and suddenly having countries slapping him upside down with sanctions here, there and everywhere! DUH! Let’s face it, whatever decisions that an individual or society makes will have its consequences. It’s foolishness to expect complete approval from everybody for each decision we make. One man’s meat is another man’s poison. We can’t please everybody yet everybody is still trying to! (Me, included.)
We all want acceptance. One way or another, we make every attempt to get it. The recent debacle of a video that manages to get itself into circulation causes much grief to the “star” of it. So much has been said of it and much that was supposed to be said not said. Whatever the cause, lets help to let it pass. I pray she finds courage to move on. We still have a choice. I once told my kids this and still stand by it with convictions. “If the whole world thinks you are a winner and yet you think you are a loser. Then you are a loser. If the whole world think you are a loser, and yet you believe you can persevere and win. You are a winner…in the making.” It doesn’t really matter if you have yet to win now. It only matter the day you cross that finish line.
I had been silent for a long time. Maybe it’s only that I have nothing good to say. Perhaps I was in grief…perhaps I am stressed…whatever the case I chose to be silent. Through the days of my silence, I realized one critical habit that I lost on the way. A very good habit that would need me to put in effort to pick it up again. That is to stop…to stop and smell the flowers. Well… I shall leave it as that. Until I remember to smell the flowers, live well and prosper.
“Soli Deo Gloria”
Michael Kuan a.k.a WindyG
Even children are so skilled in their assertive skills! I’m not surprise though coz they are the ones that we adults learned this skill from. Or was it the other way round? These bring to my main point. Non-acceptance or being plain disrespectful of other people’s choices just proclaims a character flaw…downright immature. I seen people advocating an individual’s right to self-determination, or hear of countries proudly saying that they have a strong policy of non-interference in other countries’ businesses. Then suddenly the individual find himself thinking he can't feel secure at his own backyard and suddenly having countries slapping him upside down with sanctions here, there and everywhere! DUH! Let’s face it, whatever decisions that an individual or society makes will have its consequences. It’s foolishness to expect complete approval from everybody for each decision we make. One man’s meat is another man’s poison. We can’t please everybody yet everybody is still trying to! (Me, included.)
We all want acceptance. One way or another, we make every attempt to get it. The recent debacle of a video that manages to get itself into circulation causes much grief to the “star” of it. So much has been said of it and much that was supposed to be said not said. Whatever the cause, lets help to let it pass. I pray she finds courage to move on. We still have a choice. I once told my kids this and still stand by it with convictions. “If the whole world thinks you are a winner and yet you think you are a loser. Then you are a loser. If the whole world think you are a loser, and yet you believe you can persevere and win. You are a winner…in the making.” It doesn’t really matter if you have yet to win now. It only matter the day you cross that finish line.
I had been silent for a long time. Maybe it’s only that I have nothing good to say. Perhaps I was in grief…perhaps I am stressed…whatever the case I chose to be silent. Through the days of my silence, I realized one critical habit that I lost on the way. A very good habit that would need me to put in effort to pick it up again. That is to stop…to stop and smell the flowers. Well… I shall leave it as that. Until I remember to smell the flowers, live well and prosper.
“Soli Deo Gloria”
Michael Kuan a.k.a WindyG
