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The links in a life are build unconsiously and mostly carelessly. You rarely hear people claiming they consiously chose who they associate with.
BTW...hihi..long time no see. Been long since i wrote on this blog. Life is throwing me alot of curve balls, trying to get my shit together. I kinda gotten "the shit kicked" out of me by L O V E.
Many things in life are considered overated by me. Take honesty for example, we expect honesty from people yet the same bar is flexible when it become applicable to us too. Who am I to expect it??? If it is given...Thank God! If someone lie to me...well, too bad. Move on.
In the process of communication in an intimate relationship, one can't help to assume certain conditions/situations/emotions/motives from the person we are communicating with. The question is am I right most of the time or am i wrong? A condition I notice is that people expected to be answered when a question is asked. Of course! Duh... i mean why ask a question when you are not answered??? Here is where the fun begins for me. Try answering questions with questions. (It irritate the hell out of the inquirer.) Do not try this if you want to maintain a good and loving relationship.
The purpose of communications primarily means the exchange of information. But when a party begins to doubt informations recieved, the communication assume positions of flux. Thus, for a prolong period of flux, it breaks down. Assumptions without substantial relevant facts is a bitch. Its root lies only in the insecurity of the assumer. We all assume. We have to in most time. We assume when we don't have all the facts. The bitch is when I assume when i don't have any fact at all! In such scenarios, I back off totally.
This bring me back to the beginning of this blog. If I'm associated with a person/organization that pushes me to assume with no facts, I will break it off in a snap. Wouldn't you? Its bad for my gastric if I don't. Life is hard, don't make it harder. On the moderate level, a relationship based on faith is a different matter altogether. That I leave it to explain another day. Explain for you?? No...for myself only. You just happen to pass by here.
In flux,
Michael Kuan
